Therapy for Low Self-Esteem

If deep down, you don’t like yourself very much—or you think other people don’t like you—you may benefit from therapy for low self-esteem.


Signs and Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem

Most people have some self-doubt—but they also appreciate their good qualities most of the time.

However, if you have low self-esteem, you may:

  • Put yourself down or make jokes at your own expense
  • Criticize yourself frequently
  • Blame yourself if a mistake, problem, or conflict arises
  • Apologize frequently—even if it’s not your fault (or be afraid to admit you made a mistake)
  • Try to please other people without recognizing or asserting your own needs
  • Put little stock in your ideas and opinions
  • Feel self-conscious and as if others are judging you
  • Avoid challenges, fear failure, or try to be perfect
  • Have trouble saying no, knowing what you want—or even considering what you might want or need
  • Focus on your faults and failures rather than your good qualities and successes
  • Constantly compare yourself to other people
  • Think thoughts such as: “I hate myself” or “Everybody hates me.”

These feelings may occur frequently or just around certain people or situations.

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The Effects of Low Self-Esteem on Your Life

The results of low self-esteem can be devastating. They can impact nearly every area of your life.

If you don’t feel good about yourself (and accept your imperfections), you may:

  • Go through life feeling insecure—not trusting yourself or others
  • Have problematic relationships
  • Be pessimistic and nearly always expect the worst
  • Have a hard time making decisions
  • Think you’re not worthy to be loved, successful, wealthy, happy, have fun, etc.
  • Put others down, gossip about them, or even bully them
  • Hold grudges—have a hard time forgiving yourself or others
  • Feel out of control
  • Have difficulty accepting compliments
  • Be unsure how to set boundaries
  • Fear failure and be anxious
  • Become sad, angry, or depressed
  • Abuse of food, alcohol, or drugs
  • Put your physical and emotional needs last
  • Feel ashamed or worthless

At its worst, you may wish you were never born, wish you would die, want to harm yourself, or even want to take your life.

Emergency Help

If you’re feeling as if you may harm yourself or are feeling suicidal, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:

Call, Text, or Chat: 988

You may also call the Suicide Lifeline’s toll-free number: 800-273-8255.

If you’re in immediate danger, call:


Learn How to Love and Accept Yourself

Low self-esteem is based on a lie or lies that you were made to believe.  It sucks the joy out of your life.

But help is available.

With the support of your therapist, you’ll break free of the constant “shoulds” and self-criticism. Moreover, you’ll learn how to face your fears—and even potential conflict or other stressful situations. Additionally, you’ll discover why you’re good enough exactly the way you are—even if there are areas in your life you would like to improve.

What’s more, you’ll learn to become more resilient when you have setbacks and problems.

To unconditionally love and accept yourself is the greatest life goal and gift that you can give yourself—and those around you.

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